I recently opened up on Instagram about my struggles with weight (you can read the post here) and it really seemed to resonate with so many of you. So I thought this would be a great way to try and help you love your bodies and stop wanting to change them…
1. Yours is the ONLY opinion that matters
Someone once told me, during my bigger phase, that I ‘would be so pretty if you were just, like, a size 10’. I stupidly listened and that comment kind of sparked a years-long cycle of dieting and bingeing that I now deeply regret.
As much as I hate this saying, cos it’s so cliché, be true to yourself – you need to ask yourself what you want, what is important to you, and how to get there. Don’t be swayed by negative nellies.
2. Worrying about your figure is a waste of time
Think of all the other much more important and valuable things you could be doing… Like shopping.
3. Your body is AMAZING!
Take a moment to become aware of everything your body can do each day. It’s incredible – walk, dance, run, digest food etc etc. As the National Eating Disorders association puts it, ‘Remember that your body is the instrument of your life, not just an ornament.’ Be its friend, not its enemy!
4. Your life won’t change if your body is a little bit thinner
It’s a common misconception that if you just lose weight, you’ll be so much happier. Generally, not true – I starved myself down to way below my ‘normal weight’ BMI recommendation, and I was not happy at any point… Far from it, in fact.
You still have all those insecurities – both physical and mental – and they don’t melt away along with the fat…
At my heaviest and at my slimmest – I was deeply unhappy at both points…
5. If you’re healthy, that’s all that matters!
Our body needs nutrition, and starving it is damaging. Are you in the healthy BMI range and do you have mostly (because we all need a bit of what we fancy when we fancy it) healthy eating habits? Well then, you’re ok.
6. Remember that today’s standards for beauty are totally unrealistic
And they are mostly influenced by Hollywood, which is totally insane. People there barely eat and are miserable – all just to look a bit thinner on camera. We need to feel sorry for them, not try to copy them.
7. No one will notice if you gain or lose a few pounds
Seriously. Remember that people are very much wrapped up in themselves and your weight isn’t really on their radar. Plus it is actually really difficult to notice weight changes in someone else unless they are dramatic.
8. You look way better than you think
We are our own harshest critics, unfortunately. We notice our flaws, while other people see our beauty.